It is tempting to focus on the future and TODO's, but I thought today I will focus on celebrating the difficult things that I have managed to accomplish over the last half year - breaking out of bad habits and building good ones.
First and foremost, I am proud to say that I am not a nail biter anymore. I cannot remember when I started (childhood amnesia). I was able to stop once in the early 2000's, and another time at around 2017, but I went into relapse both times. I noticed that the my nail biting probability increases when I am 1) stressed out, 2) but not consciously aware of said mental state, so I decided to tackle both problems - being more mentally aware and acknowledging that I am feeling distressed, and also to get rid of the sources of distress as much as I can. Most recently, I made the decision to stop in November 2019, and so far so good.
It dawned on me that a source of distress could be something as simple as a cup of home brewed coffee in the morning. My body is small so it doesn't take that much caffeine to get me going... and for it to be overwhelming. So in February 2020 I cut down my caffeine consumption to 1/2 cup instead of a cup.
MORE HOT WATER
After getting a cold earlier this year and drinking hot water almost continuously, I realized that I like drinking hot (well, warm) water. So I decided to keep drinking hot water at least a few times a day. Feels nice and warm. I am hoping this helps with my digestion and blood circulation.
MORE MINDFUL MOMENTS
I dedicated March 2020 to the 30-day mindfulness challenge and I have acquired a mini-meditation habit (5 sets of controlled breathing and being aware of body posture) where I can spend a few minutes to get out of my head and back into my body.
LESS OBSESSION OVER CHECKING
I started to cut back on social media usage and obsessive email checking. This is a difficult habit to break out of because in my current job and in all of my previous jobs, emails are >80% of what I do since all my roles are/were communicative ones. Recently, when I decided to clear my browsing history, cache, cookies, passwords, etc. I decided to NOT save my credentials on my browser when I log in to social media, and I make a point to log out / close the window when I finish using something. This acts as a filter - if I need to send or post something that is important enough, I will log in to do that specific thing. But if I don't have anything important to do (and I'd just do mindless scrolling as a result), I won't bother spending the time logging in. I'm several days in on this, and I think I'm checking significantly less than I used to.
Here's to forming more good habits!
I decided to take advantage of a service offered through my work: Mindwell-U’s “30-Day Mindfulness Challenge.” It is based on the idea of “Tak[ing] 5” (details here): https://www.mindwellu.com/take-5 and each day I need to watch a short video and do mini-reflections (in addition to taking 5 at least once… ideally 5 times or more). I participated in the challenge from March 3 to April 1, 2020.
By the end of the 30 days, I would’ve taken 5 approximately 90 times (roughly 3 times a day). I started the 30-day mindfulness challenge at a very unique time (when COVID-19 turned into a global pandemic), and so my conclusion as to whether the mindfulness challenge worked is somewhat wishy-washy: I’m feeling uneasy overall, but I might be feeling way worse if I didn’t do the mindfulness exercises every day.
Action items for the future (which may or may not evolve into my next DK30, we’ll see):
Some reflections on the 30-Day Mindfulness Challenge at large:
I'm Candice and I doodle with the intensity of the doomguy.